There's a couple of different versions (unsure what year your car is) of the wiring.
Power is always available at the relay when the car is on. Pressing the horn contact in the steering provides a ground to the horn relay.
The ground is from the steering column, through the horn pad, through the "volute spring" (slip ring) and onto pin # 85 of the horn relay.
I would first check by leaving the relay installed, and CAREFULLY supplying a ground to pin # 85. Does the horn work?
If so, then check if pressing the horn pad brings a GOOD ground from the pad, through the volute spring and onto pin
# 85.
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